Over the last few blogs, I have explored how fear and performance anxiety affects your goals.

The Fear of Loss

Fear is an imagined future.

If you imagine losing something, it is likely to increase your fear of losing it.

Daniel Kahneman, one of the world’s leading authorities in psychology and economics, views his work on loss aversion as his most important.

He won a Nobel Memorial Prize in Economic Sciences for it.

Kahneman’s life work is summarised is his book, Thinking Fast and Slow, and it is one of the top seven books that inspired the development of the IMPACT Goals method.

Loss aversion is when the fear of losing something outweighs the benefit of gaining something.

Kahneman discovered that people have a greater fear of losing one thing than appreciation of what they can gain from another.

Through experiments, Kahneman worked out that we are more than twice as averse to losing something than gaining something.

This presents an interesting opportunity when motivating yourself to achieve your goals: you might be more compelled to complete steps if you set punishments rather bonuses when you set your rewards.

This is because you are more likely to try to move away from the punishment than to seek the bonus.

Techniques to Overcome Fear

There are many techniques beyond traditional couch therapy that can have a more immediate impact in dealing with fears and your response to them.

These include Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Emotional Freedom Therapy (EFT), Neuro-Linguist Therapy (NLP) and hypnotherapy.

From personal experience, I have found hypnosis to be effective.

If you feel fear regularly, it is likely that you will never be free of fear.

So, accept that it is part of you, learn to manage it with one of these techniques and stop letting it prevent you from doing something.

Worry and Stress

We may not actually have something that we need to worry about, but simply worry for worrying sake.

Something which we worry about over the long term can become chronic stress.

This can be a difficult habit to shake off and might best be done by learning relaxation methods to allow you to calm down and de-stress.

If you would like to discuss techniques to overcome worry, fear or stress and to relax, then come along to an IMPACT Goal workshop.

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