I use recovering from a broken neck as an example of how to set a life goal to get through crisis or change.
In my last blog, I wrote about setting the goal and acknowledging my current situation.
In this one, I cover integrating my goal with my core values.
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Driving towards my goal
I get the drive to pursue IMPACT Goals by integrating the goal with my core values.
My core values act like a springboard from which to go after my life goal.
They give me the momentum that I need for long term or difficult goals by inspiring me when I become demotivated or fatigued.
This is because my goal is inextricably linked to what is most important to me.
Integrating to life goals with core values is central to creating an IMPACT Goal.
Motivated to be patient
With most goals, I am actively aiming for something.
In this case, I needed to be motivated to be patient with my body and to get out of the way of the healing process to recover from my broken neck.
I’ve never experienced a goal like this before, where being motivated to the least possible – by resting – would achieve the best result!
I needed to be happy with this and not become frustrated.
My core values
So, how did I do this?
By working out how the goal related to each of my core values to be clear as to my motivation:
My deepest core value is putting my family first.
Prioritising my recuperation meant that I am putting my family’s needs at the forefront because it will enable me to get back to providing for them as quickly as possible.
It would also mean the least impact on them in the long term.
I needed to spend a lot of time resting and being still to recover from my broken neck.
This was difficult because I am an active and energetic person.
The best way was to make peace with the healing process, because this helped me have the patience that I needed.
I thrive by being creative.
I used my imagination to get ideas about how best to heal to get a better long-term outcome.
Using my imagination also kept me mentally occupied as my body recovered.
Better than before:
Recovery from the accident gave me a forced pause and an opportunity to take stock of my life, investigate interests and adjust where I am going.
It was satisfying to find that the current direction of my life feels right to me.
Life long learning
To recover in the best and fullest way, I wanted to learn about my injury and how best to recover from it.
I learnt both about new things, such as anatomy and how the body works so that I could understand what’s important.
I also enhanced existing interests, for instance hypnosis to manage pain and meditation to enable me to give my body the space to recover.
It also gave me the time to learn about another galaxy… by watching the Star Wars saga!
One thing that was thrown up by the accident that there are values that I take for granted – in this case health – yet which are fundamental to achieving long term goals.
I considered this when first developing the IMPACT Goal setting method, but it wasn’t until I had my health ripped from me that I understood their importance.
I have written a separate blog on fundamental values: universal values that we take for granted.
In my next blog, I will share the how I made my IMPACT Goal “Measured” by setting steps, rewards and habits to achieve recovery.
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