When striving for a goal, many people ask whether it is OK to make mistakes.
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Mistakes Are Lessons
You will make many mistakes on the journey to your goals.
It is OK to fail.
Mistakes are lessons.
They pave the way for success.
Pippa Grange, former psychologist to the England Football Team, said:
“part of what it takes to be courageous is overcoming the constant battle between our desire for what we want and the fear of failure. Most of us don’t expose ourselves because we are fearful. I’d like to turn this unhealthy pre-occupation with success on its head and put it on the record that I think that failure is really useful. It’s a funny paradox – our successes are achieved through trying, and trying often ends in failure… the important lesson is to learn from our failures, reassess, rethink, move forward (sometimes in a different direction) and keep those dreams and goals alive.”
Grange has written in more depth about how to learn from your mistakes to fear less:
It can be empowering to accept responsibility for your mistakes.
This is because it puts you in charge of your destiny.
So, take responsibility for all your choices and for your behaviour.
In a similar way, take 100% responsibility for your goals, and accept that if you fail to achieve them, it is down to you.
Try, Try, Try Again
Henry Ford said,
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”
Accepting responsibility and that you might fail gives you the chance to change because it brings these into your sphere of influence.
You can have another go.
So, if you fail to achieve what you want to first time, try again.
Failure Occurs At The Interface
A Research Director that I worked with for a decade told me, “Failure always happens at the interface”.
This would imply that it would make sense to avoid the interface, which is the point at which two systems meet and interact.
He then went on to say, “so do the most exciting things.”
You see this in material science, chemistry and engineering, where the border between one environment and another is where molecules are most excited and change occurs – sometimes leading to failure, sometimes leading to desirable action.
Failure takes you our of your comfort zone
When you are in your comfort zone, nothing much happens.
No change, no improvement.
If you put yourself at the edge of it, you are more likely to experience change.
You might also experience the failure that you fear, though it is usually not as bad as imagined.
More likely, you will also put yourself in the position to experience success.
And, in both cases, to experience excitement.
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